Wednesday, January 27, 2010

B is for Biological Clock

Oh the ticking! Can you hear it? [And BTW, if my husband is reading my blog he has already broken a sweat!]

The confounding thing about the biological clock is that in my brain - I do not want to have another baby. I am a perfectly logical (most of the time) gal. I have a 12 year old - kind, wonderful, healthy, smart, only child - son. TWELVE. In 6 years he will be out of high school and heading to college. If I had another baby now, he or she would be starting kindergarten when my boy is graduating. Also, I have a craft room. A baby would make that disappear in a snap. And, I sleep ALL.NIGHT.LONG! And,though I have to deal with stinky dog breath and a farting 12 year old, there are no nasty diapers to really stink up the house. Potty training! Every living thing in this house has that down!

So, why is it that...

everytime I see a sweet little babe I want to cuddle it and kiss on it and sniff its little chubby neck...and slip it into my bag and take it home with me?? Yesterday I even daydreamed about getting woken in the middle of the night and playing with a toothless, grinning bundle of lusciousness. sigh

Virgil, go dab the sweat. It will be out of my system soon. I hope.

20 comments:

Susan said...

Ooooo, sometimes I have the same feelings. I teach preschool so I get my baby and toddler fix with them.
It's ok to dream.
Enjoy,
Susan {:o)

Sarah said...

No children of my own, but oh how special it is to hold a new born. Fortunately one of my nieces has just given us al a little bundle to cuddle.

5thsister said...

At 48 I think the same thoughts too! It would have been nice to have more babies but, unfortunately, it never came to fruition. Great B post, BTW.

laterg8r said...

i love the sweet smell of a baby's head, makes my uterus thump LOL :D

Carol said...

A lot, and I mean a lot, of my friends (in our 40's)...have older teens and 5 year olds. Even my ex husband, Sara is 22 and Adam is 19 and he has a 1 1/2 year old....eeeek! No more for me...I decided that loooong ago. I play with all my friends babies now! ;)
P.S. I sleep soundly too! (hee hee)

Mardell said...

William is 14 yrs. younger than my daughter & 16 yrs. to my oldest!
Anything is possible Amy... I never thought I'd have another after my DD, but am SO thankful I did. He keeps me going & is the best company ever!

Viki said...

Because your a woman and a mom. Even after childbearing years, for a moment whenever I see a baby I always think if only. But then I wake up and realize I wouldn't want that much work again LOL.

Julie Schuler said...

I really hope that doesn't happen to me! I just got my youngest potty trained and I'm really really happy about that.

I came along 12 years after my oldest sister, "happy accidents" are known to happen!

MrsJenB said...

I want to have children soooo much, and so does my husband. It seems like something is always getting in our way, though. Before it was unsteady finances - now it's caring for my sick father-in-law. *Hopefully* once he starts to improve we can approach the subject again...I mean, I'm only 30 but still, I worry that it will be too late!

mbkatc230 said...

I'm 50 and our one and only DD is 21. And yet... but then I snap out of it and realize that hopefully within the next 8-10 years or so I'll get to be a grandma. All the fun, much less muss and fuss lol. I don't think that anyone who has had a child ever gets completely over that wonderful feeling when holding a baby. Kathy

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

I have a son and daughter in my 20's and when I reached my mid thirties I had the same "on again off again" urges...it's normal! Do what your heart says and it will be the right thing.

Cathy said...

Never say never my dear Aunt Amy...look at your oldest sister, isn't their several years between Colleen and Katrina? Just sayin...LOL!!! I am 30 and my bio clock is going so fast it is skipping beats, but everytime Cary and I think we are ready I chicken out. I want a baby so bad, but I worry about supporting it, being a good parent, can I raise a kid and work and work and, and, and...

Jenny said...

Darn, you force me to reveal my secret wish to adopt a baby. First of all I'm too old, my health wouldn't allow it and think how confusing that would be for the Reds! But when Steve and I got married 10 years ago I tried and tried to talk him into it.

I had three children and five miscarriage (three of those second trimester) and I always, always wish I had more children.

And, yes, I'm crazy.

I like this about babies post, Amy!

A+ for you!

Brenda said...

Oh my. I'm 53 and have 6 grand children. I get my fill of babe for sure. My brother and sister both had children that were 12 and older before they had their next one.

Betty (picture circa 1951) said...

At 64 I haven't had those thoughts for a long time. :) With time they go away.

mrs. c said...

i think it is very natural to want a baby. I always was most content when i was caring for my babies. I teach small children and am a Sunday School teacher and those are the ways I fill this space in my heart.

My name is PJ. said...

I'm almost 53 and whenever I hold a small baby I feel the exact. same. thing.

If only you had first hand access to a sulking, hormonal teenager...it might help you balance that maternal tug. It worked for me!

easternsparkle said...

I think my clock stopped ticking some time ago. I love other peoples babies that I can hand back when it gets hard work now - grandchildren next tho'!

Jo said...

Oh I am so with you ...only mine is 20 and so i am just waiting patiently for the day i get a grandbaby ...

RNSANE said...

I loved your post. I remarried and, at 38 and ro, had two more sons, TWELVE AND FOURTEEN YEARS, after my first one, then my husband took off and I was left to raise the two younger ones alone with no child support. Shawn, their older brother, was an incredible help. Of course, now, he is still unmarried and says, even if he does get married, he has already raised two boys and wants no children of his own!!! Yikes.

Yet, at 65, a baby raiss that mothering instinct in me and I just have to snuggle and cuddle the sweetie. I can't wait till May when the first of my trio marries his love of five years and has my first grandchild!

Check out my "B is for Barcelona" - my favorite city in the world - at
http://rnsane.blogspot.com/2010/01/b-is-for-barcelona.html#links

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